Just a little about personality typing.
I have always had an interest in psychology in general and personalities in in particular. So if you came here with an interest in what I am....you can read all about it below.

I am an ENFJ.  For those of you interested this is the narrative about that type.
You have to figure out if this is Barb-or better the Barb you know(S)

ENFJ: "Pedagogue". Outstanding leader of groups. Can be aggressive at helping others to be the best that they can be.
ENFJ:  Responsive and responsible.  Generally feel real concern for what
others think or want, and try to handle things with due regard for the other
person's feelings.  Can present a proposal or lead a group discussion with
ease and tact.  Sociable, popular, sympathetic. Responsive to praise and
ENFJs take their energy from the outer world of actions and spoken words. They prefer dealing with patterns and possibilities, particularly for people, and make decisions using personal values. Their lives are organised on a personal basis, seeking to develop and maintain stable relationships with those people they like. They are actively concerned with promoting personal growth in others. They are also highly sociable, and expressive of feelings towards others, but can find conflict and criticism difficult, particularly if it might damage long term relationships. They works best in situations involving people.
What makes an ENFJ tick?

The Dominant function is the judging one of Feeling. Characteristics
associated with this function include:

     Makes decisions on the basis of personal values
     Is appreciative and accepting of people - enjoying company and
     seeking harmony. Assesses the impact of decisions on others, being sympathetic or compassionate. Takes a personal approach

The judging Feeling function is extroverted. That is, Feeling is used primarily to govern the outer world of actions and spoken words. The ENFJ will therefore
     seek stable, harmonious relationships,  tend to adapt to the environment, taking on board those values that are held as important by friends and family, or society as a whole, express the appreciation that is felt towards others,
     tend to consider others' feelings before his/her own, be sensitive to praise and criticism, and seek to conform to others' reasonable expectations

The Feeling function is primarily supported by introverted iNtuitive perception, That is, iNtuitive perception is used primarily to manage the inner world of thoughts and emotions. This will modify the way that the Feeling is directed, by:

     focusing the (outer world) Feeling on ideas and possibilities for people,     looking for meaningful relationships, aiming to understand people, gaining insight into their personality and motivation

The classic temperament of an ENFJ is Apollonian, or Choleric, for whom a basic driving force is the search for meaning or purpose.

Contributions to the team of an ENFJ

In a team environment, the ENFJ can contribute by:

     promoting insight and common understanding amongst the team
     facilitating discussions, encouraging contributions from all team members by asking questions in a structured way, seeking to arrive at consensus decisions,  generating team spirit though the ENFJ's own energy and enthusiasm, focusing on areas of agreement and building on others' proposals
     bringing discussions to positive conclusions

The potential ways in which an ENFJ can irritate others include:

     talking too much, assuming they know the needs of others - in trying to help them develop insight, the ENFJ can appear bossy,
     avoiding conflict and not giving criticism when it is needed,
     taking criticism personally,  focusing so much on interpersonal issues that cost and other impersonal considerations are not adequately addressed.

Personal Growth

As with all types, the ENFJ can achieve personal growth by developing all functions that are not fully developed, through actions such as:

     learning to observe and accept the negative aspects of those people they admire,  finding an independent and objective means of verifying their insights about people,  pausing and thinking, encouraging others to articulate their own needs, and using active listening to verify understanding,
     undertaking a critical appraisal of a situation or person, and expressing disagreement or criticism when it could be of value to the recipient,
     focusing on impersonal details when making decisions
     listing options and undertaking a formal process of evaluation against criteria, including a cost benefit analysis
     establishing a long term goal, working towards it, but being prepared to modify it in the light of experience and developing circumstances,
     letting others develop at their own pace

Recognising Stress
As stress increases, 'learned behaviour' tends to give way to the natural style, so the ENFJ will behave more according to type when under greater stress.

For example, in a crisis, the ENFJ might:
     get everyone organised
     express appreciation for their efforts
     contribute creative ideas, but overlook current realities
     fail to consider the cost implications

Under extreme stress, fatigue or illness, the ENFJ's shadow may appear - a negative form of ISTP. Example characteristics are:

     being very critical and find fault with almost everything
     doing things to excess - e.g.: eating, drinking or exercising
     asking for irrelevant information
     ignoring others' feelings

The shadow is part of the unconscious that is often visible to others, onto whom the shadow is projected.
The ENFJ may therefore readily see these faults in others without recognising it in him/her self.
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Your distinct personality, The Prime Minister might be found in most of the thriving kingdoms of the time. You are a strategist who pursues the most efficient and logical path toward the realization of the goal that you perceive or visualize. You will often only associate with those people who can assist you in the implementation of your plan. Inept assistants may be immediately discarded as excess baggage. To do otherwise could be seen as inefficient and illogical. On the positive side, you can be rationally idealistic and analytically ideological. You can be a bold decision maker and risk taker who can move society ahead by years instead of minutes. On the negative side, you may be unmerciful, impatient, arrogant, impetuous and impulsive. Interestingly, your preference is just as applicable in today's corporate kingdoms.
My Enneagram number is  a very strong 1

1. Reformers. The underlying motivation of the 1 is to be RIGHT, and
to avoid being WRONG.  Reformers are the most compulsively
rational of the types, and the perfectionist is another name for this
type.  Average 1s are driven by their "inner critic", an inner set of
standards that tends to be quite rigorous, and independent of what
other people might tell them.  Hence, the average 1 is very
self-critical, and may also be critical of others when they expect the
same high standards of others that they have imposed on themselves.
Ones get much of their energy from anger, and at best, this energy is
channeled into discipline, organization, a strong work ethic and a love
of fairness, justice, and truth.  At worst, they become rigid in their
thinking, psychologically trapped by their own rules and principles
and becoming self-righteous in a way that, although logically correct,
is not helpful to themselves or others.

Different 1s may look very different outwardly, even though the
underlying motivations are the same.  Introverted ones may be
extremely well mannered, in their attempt to become the ideal perfect
individual.  Extroverted ones may be more abrasive if their passions
involve social justice or some other cause in which one has to fight to
see one's principles turned into reality.

Famous ones: Hillary Clinton is a one who lends solidity and
intellectual discipline to her husband's affable but wandering style.
Also, Harrison Ford, Ralph Nader, Judith Martin (Ms Manners), Mario
Cuomo, William Buckley.
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